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Back In Time…

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The other day, my buddy, Bill Moore, posted a blog about what he would tell the 17 year old version of himself today. He’d travel back in time like Marty McFly to “fix” some of the glaring errors he made back in the 80?s. I’m sure Huey Lewiswould be blaring in the background but I think Bill would be driving his Mustang, not aDelorean.

Either way, it got me to thinking, what I might say… for me it’d be more of a Breakfast Clubscenario.

High School was not a pleasant experience for me. Lots of angst. Thankfully, it’s where I met my wife and that was awesome, but the culture and circumstances I found myself in were less than ideal. There were some good moments, but overall my memory of High School was me getting in trouble constantly. I was a cross between Bender and Claire. A rebel who had a little popularity (plus I was spoiled rotten).

You know how everyone always remembers that one teacher that believed in them and changed their lives? Yeah, that never happened for me. Cry me a river, right? Was I rebellious? Was I a pain in the butt? Was I disrespectful? Yup. Sometimes free thinkers look like that. I was just a kid after all.

I won’t regale you with all the gory details, but needless to say, Mom & Dad got a lot of gray hair during those years (I probably even gave Cheryl’s parents a few).

I have a few things to tell you. Listen up butt-head!

1. Stop arguing with your parents. They actually know a few things. I realize you know everything already, but indulge them.

2. For the love of God, please pay attention to the car in front of you. I know you’ve already crashed your T-Bird a few times by now, but there are many more to come. It’s called keeping a safe distance between you and the car in front of you. By the way, you’ll be waiting a while to get that thing back from your uncle. Get used to Dad’s Grand Marquis.

3. When you graduate from High School you are going to grow a mullett. People are going to make fun of those things forever. I know Richard Marx’s looks really cool, but please believe me they are considered quite possibly the worst hairdo in history. People still have them. There are entire websites dedicated to mocking them.

4. Websites. You are going to love these. Just like Bill said, invest in Apple. Ask your Dad if you can borrow $1,000, in fact tell him to buy a bunch of it too. By 2011, you’ll be set for life!

5. Girls lose their minds around 19. I have no idea why, but I’m just trying to prepare you. Don’t worry though, it all works out in the end.

6. Don’t stop thinking and asking questions. I know, I know, that is what gets you in hot water with the establishment known as Inter City Baptist School, but it’s okay to think for yourself. My suggestion is that you start journaling instead of asking your teachers. They don’t get it or they do and they’re trying to beat it out of you. Your opinions and thoughts will serve you well one day.

7. College is a joke. I know people will tell you differently, but it’s a giant cash cow. Take a few months, even a year or so and figure out what you like doing then pursue it. If college will help you in that pursuit, do it. If not, it’s okay.

8. For crying out loud, stick with something! God’s given you a lot of talent. If you find something you like doing, your natural abilities will take you pretty far, but there will be a time where you have to work hard to achieve your dreams. Quit quitting when things get hard!

9. Stop worrying about what people think. You’ll never please everyone. The only people you need to please are God and your spouse (and you can’t always please her either). Be who God created you to be. He’ll help you if you keep your eyes on Him.

10. Put the potato chips down. They are your kryptonite. Food is not the answer man. Get outside or play a sport or something.

11. Don’t ever use credit cards. You have a serious impulse control problem (See potato chips above). Again, stuff is not the answer.

12. Stop losing your temper. It’s ugly. Yes, people are annoying, but you need to learn that you can’t control every situation and get over yourself. Sometimes the Red Wings/Lions/Wolverines will lose. It’s just a game. Move on.

13. Get a guitar and practice playing it. You’re going to need it.

14. Stop believing the bad things people say about you and stop putting yourself down. God is so proud of you. You are an amazing dude. Trust me, people love you.

15. Most importantly, pursue God with all your heart, body and spirit. He is all that matters in this life. He has plans for you and He loves you more than you can ever imagine.

Now, I want to give you a little good news:

First off, your wife is amazing. You really got the best chick in the world. You guys are madly in love.

You’ll love this, you finally got a dog! Try to figure out why he’s afraid of thunder storms… and pretty much everything else. Either way, you got a dog Dude!

Don’t give up on the Red Wings. The jury is still out on the Lions… things are looking good though (but you’ll think that every year).

Last but not least, it might take a while, but you are finally starting to figure things out. The key is putting your life in the hands of Jesus Christ. He’s a genius at making you exactly who you were made to be. Let go and let God take you on the adventure of your lifetime.

Tell me, what would you tell yourself now that you’re older and wiser?

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The F* Word…

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Prepare yourself, because it’s about to get serious…

When I was in Junior High and High School, all the guys I knew would call each other names. It’s just something guys did… I should say do. I still hate it to this day. The age-old tradition of ripping on each other dates back to the stone age. They were just grunts, but I’m sure you knew that you’d been slammed nonetheless.

One of the go-to slams back in the fun-filled 80′s was faggot. I wondered if I should even write the word, but I decided to let it fly. The reason is, I think that word is horrible. I wanted to expose it and talk about it. Most men won’t say it in public anymore, it’s not politically correct,  but some will still say it the right company… or the wrong company depending on how you look at it.

I’ve had lengthy conversations about this word. Some recognize how hateful it is. Some see no reason it should be offensive at all. For most men, I think it’s a defense mechanism. So afraid to think that someone might think they like gay people, that they have to really make sure you know how disgusting they think they are.

As a Christian, far too often I’ve seen people who say they are followers of Jesus Christ utter that word and not think anything of it. I know I am guilty of using that word in my youth. What opened my eyes to the pure filth and hatred of it was when I was in college. During one of my Youth Ministry classes, we watched a video on adolescent sexuality. At one point in the video a young man talked about his struggles with homosexuality. Someone in the room said something about the lisp he had and uttered the word faggot. I was angry and I let him know what an idiot I thought he was. I didn’t fully understand my anger at that time, but eventually God showed me how vile and unloving it was to say.

It’s hard for most people to identify with being labeled with something that hate-filled, but the closest I’ve come to understanding it and explaining it is to tell people what it feels like when others make fun of me or insult me for being overweight.

It’s generally a daily occurrence for someone to point and stare or nudge their friend and giggle when they think I’m not looking. I’ve had many people call me names or shout something out of a moving car at me. You tell yourself to ignore them, but deep down it still hurts. I don’t want to be fat. I didn’t get here overnight, so it will take a while to fix it, but when someone calls me a fat-ass or worse, it hurts.

Many people have argued about whether homosexuality is a choice and even if it is, God loves them. If we don’t love them, then we don’t know and love God. I say that with all authority because it comes from one of my favorite passages of scripture:

1 John 4:7-12

7 My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God.8 The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love-so you can’t know him if you don’t love.9 This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him.10 This is the kind of love we are talking about-not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

11 My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other.12 No one has seen God, ever. But if we love one another, God dwells deeply within us, and his love becomes complete in us-perfect love!

So let’s stop saying, “hate the sin, love the sinner.” How about we just love one another and see what God’s transforming power can do through us.

**Update: Just wanted to add something onto this post…
My cousin, Heather, has a special needs child and mentioned on Facebook that it’s time to stop using the word retarded too. I wholly agree. I’ve used that word flippantly in the past and I’ve stepped in it a few times by saying it.

It’s just another example of how much our words mean and the damage they can do. I mentioned this to Heather and I’ll say again here, “out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 15:18). Instead of just working to control our tongues, let’s examine our hearts and bring them closer to the heart of God.

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Forward Down the Field…

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It’s September and that means one thing… FOOTBALL!

Okay ladies, don’t tune out just yet! I have some questions…

Yes, College Football started Thursday night, it’ll be in full swing Saturday (GO BLUE!). Not too mention the NFL Thursday Night in Prime Time. I’m a long suffering Lions Fan, once again I’m fully on the bandwagon with an extra heaping helping of Detroit Lions optimism. I never learn… kind of like Cubs Fans. (That one was for you Mark Arnold).

I may be painting a broad stroke here, but let’s be honest, are most of the ladies interested in watching the games. There are plenty of females sporting Buckeye gear here in Ohio, but I’ve found in Buckeye crazed Central Ohio that football is more cultural for some. It’s all about wearing Scarlet & Gray with some Buckeye nuts strung around your neck and a Bud Light in your hand… plenty of Bud Light. You can probably say that about most college towns.

Either way, I have a couple of questions:

Ladies, first off, do you watch football or even enjoy it? Be honest. Secondly, if you don’t like it, do you allow your husband or boyfriend to watch the games? Yes, I said allow. Lastly, if he’s allowed to watch what are you doing to entertain yourself for three and a half hours?

Talk amongst yourselves…

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